I was gazing at my oldest, amazed by the adult she's rapidly becoming, when it occurred to me that all my hopes and dreams for her come in an awful jumbled emotional mess. This all came clear in an instant as my tenets flashed through my head:
1) you are perfect and infinitely lovable just the way you are.
2) happiness comes through being happy just where you are.
3) but don't ever be satisfied to be just where you are.
Interesting. There's a lot caught up in that third notion of goal-setting, striving, and ambition....